I live on Guam so the show airs every Monday and I make sure i’m home by the time it airs . It’s been my Monday night unwinding ritual lately. Super love it!

Trying to be super-smart to make up for the way we look– is a classic line right out of a page in my book. I have always been “bigger-boned”, “heavier”, “heftier”, “chunkier” than my colleagues. I have been overlooked for a promotion, a job opening, an invitation-to; I really want someone to look me in the eye and tell me that is not true.

I am really liking the new show…I do wish they would get Brooke’s character some new clothes…instead of hiding behind boxy jackets maybe they could show off her curves a little more…just a thought

Keep up the good work and so sorry to hear of the loss of your pet.

Just wanted to say, how sorry I am for your loss. Losing a pet is devastating, it is losing a part of yourself.

I adore you, and I’ve been watching Drop Dead Diva. I really love it!! I actually blogged about it, if you have time, I’d love for you to check it out:

http://marrowofthevolcano.blogspot.com/2009/07/cho-for-sho-and-diva-fever.html

I applaud the show for calling attention to some of the stereotypes facing plus sized attorneys (and plus sized individuals in general), but I deplore some of the images portrayed. A scene where the dead blonde stares longingly at donuts during a meeting, to the extent that she is distracted from the conversation occurring with a client, is neither realistic nor professional — an attorney (fat or not) would never do this, regardless of the desire for a donut. Showing the dead blonde unceremoniously shoving the donut into her face as she walked down the hallway back to her office was demeaning to all types of fat people. Showing the dead blonde waxing poetically at a client’s dinner meeting about the merits of fried calamari was similarly unrealistic, and made it seem as though her life was food-centric, not client-centric. While I personally do not suck down liquid cheese, I expect everyone does have their own stress-relieving methods — so that one I found less offensive or unrealistic.

The show would be more compelling (and would be the subject of less criticism) if it focused on the discrimination (overt and covert) that the attorney (or fat person in the general population) faces, not on the way a person becomes fat. Some things people do that they think are being helpful are often hurtful. I think the show was trying to accomplish this (eg the assignment of the divorce case with the mousy client because the fat attorney would understand her insecurities) — but I think it has a long way to go. I suggest they get some advice from the legal community regarding this issue.

We have discussed this show on an American Bar Association listserve for small and solo firm attorneys — http://www.solosez.net, and anyone can see the discussion threads if you go to the archives. Attorneys often have a different perspective on these issues, and you might find it interesting to see what we think.