Comments on: Bully http://www.margaretcho.com/2012/08/28/bully/ Margaret Cho Official Site Wed, 19 Jun 2013 09:59:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4 By: About Bullying | squigglr http://www.margaretcho.com/2012/08/28/bully/comment-page-1/#comment-81532 About Bullying | squigglr Sun, 14 Oct 2012 03:50:29 +0000 http://www.margaretcho.com/?p=3442#comment-81532 [...] About Bullying [...] [...] About Bullying [...]

]]> By: death http://www.margaretcho.com/2012/08/28/bully/comment-page-1/#comment-80116 death Fri, 21 Sep 2012 15:18:47 +0000 http://www.margaretcho.com/?p=3442#comment-80116 [...] Margaret Cho wrote, “there’s this Buddhist meditation where you breathe in the world’s suffering [...] [...] Margaret Cho wrote, “there’s this Buddhist meditation where you breathe in the world’s suffering [...]

]]> By: www.iSeeGayPeople.tv http://www.margaretcho.com/2012/08/28/bully/comment-page-1/#comment-78311 www.iSeeGayPeople.tv Wed, 29 Aug 2012 08:48:45 +0000 http://www.margaretcho.com/?p=3442#comment-78311 LOL @ choking on compassion... but I feel you. We all deal with the trials and tribulations we had growing up gay differently. Mine wasn't bullies because I could actually fight. My issue was hiding/fighting internally with myself about who I was for most of my life and holding all that in... and those internal battles resurface in my relationships... if I had to choose, I would prefer still hating the bullies than fucking up my relationships, but I am working on it. Single at the moment... but still working on it... lol LOL @ choking on compassion… but I feel you. We all deal with the trials and tribulations we had growing up gay differently. Mine wasn’t bullies because I could actually fight. My issue was hiding/fighting internally with myself about who I was for most of my life and holding all that in… and those internal battles resurface in my relationships… if I had to choose, I would prefer still hating the bullies than fucking up my relationships, but I am working on it. Single at the moment… but still working on it… lol

]]> By: Stitch Jones http://www.margaretcho.com/2012/08/28/bully/comment-page-1/#comment-78302 Stitch Jones Tue, 28 Aug 2012 19:46:19 +0000 http://www.margaretcho.com/?p=3442#comment-78302 Thank you, Margaret. You're right, therapy doesn't fix it all. I still feel pain and anger, but what happened to me no longer defines who I am. I too had to deal with bullying at school, from about 3rd grade right up thru 11th, and sexual abuse at home rather than the protection I needed. I survived all that and now have a loving family and a successful business. I am in my late 50s. In the last 10 years I have actually had a couple of people from high school seek me out to apologize for how they treated me. Even though I can understand where it's coming from, I don't feel it is up to me to grant absolution to make them feel better about themselves, after all, that's why they picked on me and other ready victims in the first place! It's nice that people eventually grow up, but if they want to make a difference I think they should follow the example of people like you. You have always been one of my heroes, Margaret. Love you! Thank you, Margaret. You’re right, therapy doesn’t fix it all. I still feel pain and anger, but what happened to me no longer defines who I am. I too had to deal with bullying at school, from about 3rd grade right up thru 11th, and sexual abuse at home rather than the protection I needed. I survived all that and now have a loving family and a successful business. I am in my late 50s. In the last 10 years I have actually had a couple of people from high school seek me out to apologize for how they treated me. Even though I can understand where it’s coming from, I don’t feel it is up to me to grant absolution to make them feel better about themselves, after all, that’s why they picked on me and other ready victims in the first place! It’s nice that people eventually grow up, but if they want to make a difference I think they should follow the example of people like you. You have always been one of my heroes, Margaret. Love you!

]]> By: Ceddy http://www.margaretcho.com/2012/08/28/bully/comment-page-1/#comment-78299 Ceddy Tue, 28 Aug 2012 19:12:48 +0000 http://www.margaretcho.com/?p=3442#comment-78299 When I was in my high school I got taunted by a lot of people, they called me names, "Oh look at this transgendered faggot." (When I wasn't even transgendered, I am just a gay guy), people make fun of my names and stuff and this particular guy was a pain in the ass, every time I walked past his class he'll tell his friends "Hey look at that softy." Or "How much for a night.", I didn't even wanna give a damn about these people until later when we all parted ways, I saw a private message left by someone in a gay dating site. OH HELLO IT'S THAT FUCKER WHO CALLED ME NAMES and in the message, if I still remember correctly, it contains some shitty apologies for what he did, it was wrong, he was guilty and most importantly, he has found his true self and would like to ask if I can give him a chance and BE WITH HIM." I just replied him, "Dude. What the fuck?" and gave him a piece of me of how I felt when he was being a jerk and I felt so much better. No I'm not sorry for not being forgiving. When I was in my high school I got taunted by a lot of people, they called me names, “Oh look at this transgendered faggot.” (When I wasn’t even transgendered, I am just a gay guy), people make fun of my names and stuff and this particular guy was a pain in the ass, every time I walked past his class he’ll tell his friends “Hey look at that softy.” Or “How much for a night.”, I didn’t even wanna give a damn about these people until later when we all parted ways, I saw a private message left by someone in a gay dating site. OH HELLO IT’S THAT FUCKER WHO CALLED ME NAMES and in the message, if I still remember correctly, it contains some shitty apologies for what he did, it was wrong, he was guilty and most importantly, he has found his true self and would like to ask if I can give him a chance and BE WITH HIM.”

I just replied him, “Dude. What the fuck?” and gave him a piece of me of how I felt when he was being a jerk and I felt so much better. No I’m not sorry for not being forgiving.

]]> By: Andrew http://www.margaretcho.com/2012/08/28/bully/comment-page-1/#comment-78296 Andrew Tue, 28 Aug 2012 18:09:46 +0000 http://www.margaretcho.com/?p=3442#comment-78296 I totally agree, Margaret. If some people want to take the high road because that's what makes them feel good then that's great, but that's not how I feel. If you choose to treat me like shit then I will choose to resent you (and I wouldn't blame anyone for thinking the same of me, because I know I've been less-than-kind to people too in the past). I totally agree, Margaret. If some people want to take the high road because that’s what makes them feel good then that’s great, but that’s not how I feel. If you choose to treat me like shit then I will choose to resent you (and I wouldn’t blame anyone for thinking the same of me, because I know I’ve been less-than-kind to people too in the past).

]]> By: Elena http://www.margaretcho.com/2012/08/28/bully/comment-page-1/#comment-78295 Elena Tue, 28 Aug 2012 17:10:09 +0000 http://www.margaretcho.com/?p=3442#comment-78295 thank you so much Margaret for sharing this with us. Being a queer kid myself I can relate to what you wrote and it's really inspiring for me to see a brave woman like you to stand up against discrimination. Please keep up with your great writing on this blog beacuse you've cheered me up in many occasions of great sadness. thank you so much Margaret for sharing this with us. Being a queer kid myself I can relate to what you wrote and it’s really inspiring for me to see a brave woman like you to stand up against discrimination. Please keep up with your great writing on this blog beacuse you’ve cheered me up in many occasions of great sadness.

]]> By: Nefarious Newt http://www.margaretcho.com/2012/08/28/bully/comment-page-1/#comment-78294 Nefarious Newt Tue, 28 Aug 2012 17:01:31 +0000 http://www.margaretcho.com/?p=3442#comment-78294 The conflict between forgiveness and the intense desire to see a bully get their comeuppance makes it pretty hard to let go of the pain. Nothing seems to ever make it feel OK, like, "yeah, that was then, this is now, I'm not in 4th Grade..." It sucks. The conflict between forgiveness and the intense desire to see a bully get their comeuppance makes it pretty hard to let go of the pain. Nothing seems to ever make it feel OK, like, “yeah, that was then, this is now, I’m not in 4th Grade…”

It sucks.

]]> By: Amber http://www.margaretcho.com/2012/08/28/bully/comment-page-1/#comment-78293 Amber Tue, 28 Aug 2012 16:56:52 +0000 http://www.margaretcho.com/?p=3442#comment-78293 Larissajo you don't know Romney won't get his in the end since he hasn't ended yet lol. Who knows we may find out he's meeting gay male prostitutes behind his wife's back like that "straight" guy with the "wide stance" Most people who are soooo vigilant against gay people are having serious mental issues they just aren't ready to deal with. IMO if you're that obsessed with gay sex you must have some gay tendencies. Imagine, it sure seems like the rapeublicans are VERY obsessed with gay sex and what's going on behind those bedroom doors, that doesn't seem normal or healthy to me to be so obsessed with someone else's perceived sex life. Larissajo you don’t know Romney won’t get his in the end since he hasn’t ended yet lol. Who knows we may find out he’s meeting gay male prostitutes behind his wife’s back like that “straight” guy with the “wide stance” Most people who are soooo vigilant against gay people are having serious mental issues they just aren’t ready to deal with. IMO if you’re that obsessed with gay sex you must have some gay tendencies.

Imagine, it sure seems like the rapeublicans are VERY obsessed with gay sex and what’s going on behind those bedroom doors, that doesn’t seem normal or healthy to me to be so obsessed with someone else’s perceived sex life.

]]> By: Lynette Princevalli http://www.margaretcho.com/2012/08/28/bully/comment-page-1/#comment-78292 Lynette Princevalli Tue, 28 Aug 2012 16:55:54 +0000 http://www.margaretcho.com/?p=3442#comment-78292 I hope some day, for your sake and not theirs, you can let the anger go. You are a good person and deserve respect for where you've gotten yourself despite all you had to go through! I wish you peace! I hope some day, for your sake and not theirs, you can let the anger go. You are a good person and deserve respect for where you’ve gotten yourself despite all you had to go through! I wish you peace!

]]>