Thank You Gavin Newsom
San Francisco fucking rules. I am so proud of my home town for legalizing gay marriage, sending gays and lesbians down to the city by the Bay that was built on rock and roll to tie the knot. Who don’t like that?
Well, the bullshit “Family Values” groups don’t think it is right. One dude even said that the new mayor, Gavin Newsom, who lifted the ban on same sex marriage outright talking about how “separate but equal” don’t play no more, was a dictator because he was changing the laws without any adherence to the status quo and the laws currently in effect in other cities and states. I think the dictator is the one who would keep telling consenting adults what to do with their lives. The one goosestepping is the one who would dictate who you should love and who you shouldn’t. When you point your finger at me you got three pointing back at you - see?
The first couple to be wed were quietly exchanging vows in a city supervisor’s office in a lovely ceremony. These two women, who had been together for over fifty years and had never expected to see same sex marriage legalized in their lifetimes, are spending this weekend on their honeymoon.
I am of the opinion that this only enforces and grounds the idea of family values. By allowing and legitimizing different types of families, we make them relevant, attainable and honorable, therefore strengthening the moral fabric of the nation and making the ideal American family available to all who wish to be a part of one. We will never have a shortage of parents, like we do now. We will have a surplus of love and caring, which we do not have now. “Separate but equal” doesn’t mean anything when we do not have equal rights. As soon as we do, the world will start to feel like a better place to live because freedom will begin its reign.
What role should gender play in legalized marriage? None. We hold the keys to gender in our minds and hearts, not in or on our bodies. How does gender identification involve or diffuse or somehow detract from one’s partnering or parenting skills? It doesn’t affect it.
People should not attach morality to this issue. Morality is an individualized set of ethics and should bot be legislated. If we were to push our morality on the present State of the Union, it would be an outrage. Go ahead, try and establish a dress code at a monster truck pull. You might get burned at the stake like a witch. But then the family councils and the moral police are allowed to enforce their code of ethics upon our families, or erstwhile families. The fact that this is even on the table, that we are in open discussion about the right to marry someone of the same sex, to me is an outrage and such a grievous display of prejudice, homophobia and the power of the church reaching out of bounds, way above the state. If we were truly following the mandates of the bible, then there would be laws against same sex marriage, but not against polygamy or slavery. In addition to this, there would be no mixed fabrics (not such a bad thing for we can all live without a cotton/polyester blend), no theory of evolution, and constant burning bushes and human sacrifice.
The laws and mandates of a nation made up of many different types of people who worship in innumerable ways should not be based on Biblical text. That we are “one nation under god” is a fallacious statement that is interpreted too literally and is conveniently pointed to as the be all end all answer to all of this. We are many nations under many gods and sometimes we don’t even have a god, but that doesn’t exclude us from being part of the melting pot.
So to all the couples celebrating their nuptials this weekend in my lovely San Francisco, Mazeltov. Blessings to all of you. I believe in love. I believe in you. It is not an act of civil disobedience. It is an act of love.