My Own Body
I make a big deal about showing off my physique whenever I can because I think it is important for people to know what a 39 year old woman looks like. I don’t see that many images of women like myself out there, so I want to be a good example. Whenever I can, I put on a bikini or even just pasties and a g-string because I don’t want to hide out. I think that too many people have body issues, and if we just confront those issues head on, we can get rid of them.
For years I kept myself covered up because when I was doing TV a very long time ago, one of the executives I was working with said after my first screen test, “Never, ever show your stomach in public again,” and it just made me feel so freaked out by my own body. I just wanted to disappear. It sent me into a dieting frenzy that was almost deadly.
Now that I am older and wiser, I just want to enjoy my life, and not worry so much about what people think of me, how I look, if I am too fat or something – I just don’t give a shit.
April 24th, 2008 at 12:21 pm
So I’ve been checking out your blog since I saw you perform in Vegas last month, and I really have enjoyed it…Sometimes I feel like I’m just reading an email from my friend(loved your Jon Stewart story!!!)…Anyway, it’s funny you write this today, as I have been wondering what kind of “real life” advice you would give another woman about to embark on their 30’s…Like, I would tell someone about to go through their 20’s “1. Wait to get married/have kids, 2. Invest in a vibrator and 3. (to borrow from you) Try not to be an asshole”.
Is there anything you wish someone would have told you 8 or 9 years ago?
April 24th, 2008 at 12:24 pm
Good! You are righteous, funny and frank and gorgeous!
April 24th, 2008 at 12:31 pm
Yeah, what Goose said! lol Good for you.
April 24th, 2008 at 2:39 pm
if people don’t like what they see when they look at me, i suggest they close their eyes and avoiding looking at me, unless the sight of my fatness has blinded them, in which case i apologize in advance.
April 24th, 2008 at 4:16 pm
I have been in 4 long term relationships in my life, but physical attributes like air bag sized breasts, and long legs have never been a consideration in my romantic life. I am currently single since my common law marriage ended last year, and I don’t think that I’m anywhere near ready to start a new relationship yet, but when I do, a sweet smile, dreamy eyes, and the desire to laugh will be the top 3 turn ons on my list, and weight isn’t really going to be a deciding factor for me.
April 24th, 2008 at 8:42 pm
I’m 28 and don’t give a shit either. I decided to stop dieting for one whole year because I was sick of all my body drama. Now I don’t diet and my life is f-ing amazing…not really, but it is a lot better than it was.
April 25th, 2008 at 5:32 am
Hey Margaret!! Finally watched Bam Bam and Celeste!!!
I almost cried! I thought it dealt with everything that I had to deal with as I was growing up.
I am thinking of getting the copies for my cousins for their High school graduation gifts!
I love you!
April 26th, 2008 at 1:40 pm
Awesome! Seriously, I love you and people who think like you. You are real, you give people hope and a dash of reality.
Fuck all the executives who say shit like that. Seriously, they all have an IQ of about, oh, 90 and money is the only thing that strokes their ego. Otherwise, they’d be losers living in their mother’s basement who can’t get a date to save their life.
I would love to see you in pasties in a G-string. Work it, girl!
April 27th, 2008 at 2:25 am
Show how beautiful you are to the world!
April 28th, 2008 at 1:02 pm
Just saw Face (and/or)Off for the first time–why didn’t you just bust out those karate kicks on that studio guy?!
May 21st, 2008 at 9:00 pm
I think you look great, I am sorry I missed your show in Vegas, where I live now (I am from Italy), I just got to know about you tonight, watching your “Assassin”. I loved what you said about the Pope, finally somebody that tells it like it is! I am going to watch all your other movies, and hopefully one day can come to one of your show!
Baci e abbracci (kisses and hugs in Italian)!
June 7th, 2008 at 11:55 am
Thanks, Margaret. Rock on. How crazy is it that living happily in your own body is “brave”? We gotta get used to being the naked mammals we really are - hair, squishyness, and all!
July 8th, 2008 at 2:01 pm
Margaret, you are lovely inside and out. When I see and hear you, I see and hear a good part of me… guess it doesn’t hurt we’re 2nd generation Korean American females who think for themselves and seem to not fit a homogenous, typical mold. Well, thank you for your trailblazing ways and your candor and beauty. Your gorgeousness grows with each year! I struggle less with my personal body image issues, though I’m far from being cured from it, but I am beginning to appreciate my body more as a woman and a human being. As a 26-year-old woman, I’m more in tune with my sexuality and not being ashamed of using my body as an instrument to convey my sensual side; I don’t care if others, especially 1st generation Korean women, look down upon this inherent part of my very existence. And because of your openness and acceptance of this, I am reassured that I don’t have to hide who I am to anyone. Thank you, Margaret. You have spiritual allies all around. Many blessings to you and your loved ones.
July 29th, 2008 at 3:35 am
I wasn’t able to accept my body image until after reading an inspiring book titled, “Embracing Your Big Fat Ass”, by Laura Banks and Janette Barber.
This book has jaw-dropping power. It made me realize that there’s strength in numbers. I’m joining the B-FAB Society! (Beautiful Fat Ass Babe Society.)
I look forward to more uplifting posts from you site!
August 21st, 2008 at 9:04 pm
Hey Margaet -
I’m 1/2 Korean , born in ‘68 too and up until a few years ago, when I saw you…I had no idea my big fat head was just a Korean trait. I shit you not. I had no clue. I was always so hung up with my weight and even though I would be a size 5 or 7…in my pictures I looked like a tubb. I had no clue it was just my head. Geez I’m f’d up. Any ways..now I now know thanks to you. I actually used to be ashamed of my fat head, but now I love it and found the humor in it, since I realized it’s just part of being Korean!!
Thanks Homey
August 25th, 2008 at 4:40 pm
” Now that I am older and wiser, I just want to enjoy my life, and not worry so much about what people think of me, how I look, if I am too fat or something – I just don’t give a shit.”
Very well said. It is just sad it took you till now to realize this. Truth be told you have been beautiful to me in every size and shape you have been from the first time I saw you as an novice comic.
Darkest Blessings,